The Illogical Nature of Hope

There is a reason my blog is called Amor y Dolor. I believe that these two things are the main components of life. It is amazing how at different stages in one's life the overpowering emotion can be love, but in an instant that changes to pain. When stress levels and sadness take over it is hard to keep them at bay.

People always use these colloquialisms to talk about the bad things that happen in our lives as if they only happen to show us how great our lives really are. When, in truth, maybe our circumstances were not that great to begin with. "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade;" "What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger;" "The darkest night is always just before the dawn;" "God never gives you more than you can handle." All of these phrases attempt to inspire hope. However, sometimes life doesn't give you lemons with which to make lemonade; it gives you poo, with which one could arguably make a compost pile, that is if you have a yard to put it in; but if not, you are just stuck with a large build up of poo in the corner of your bedroom. What doesn't kill you, can cause you stress and pain and suffering. Sometimes when waiting on that false hope we liken to "the dawn, " we are just stuck waiting for something better to happen, to take the pain out of our lives. I also believe that God is never the one to put stress, pain, and sadness in our lives.

So, instead of pining your emotional state on false hope given by some trite statements, the only way hope even makes sense is to make your own "hope," by creating actual things to look forward to...in your own life.